Are you one of them?

What I have in here is something to share with those people who know how to….. LOVE?


Now…

Come to think of it...


... is love what we are really afraid of? Change one letter of that word, and you get the word “lose.” A guy loses when the girl he’s courting happens to fall for someone else. A girl loses when her husband cheats on her and chooses the mistress instead. A lover loses when the loved one decides that he or she wouldn’t have anything to do with the other person anymore. These scenarios can happen in all kinds of variations. The sad thing is, they all bring about hurt. Sometimes this kind of hurt becomes too much for a person to bear. It can cause sickness, it can cause depression, it can cause all kinds of reactions. The worst case of which would be suicidal attempts. Now that probably occurs when the person in love feels that he or she has lost everything – pride, hope, happiness… and even the will to live -- because of the pain that love brought about.

I guess what I’m really trying to say here is that it is NOT love that some of us are afraid of. I mean, what’s there to fear about love, right? Love is such a wonderful feeling. It inspires, it makes our lives so much brighter, it gives us an opportunity to make someone feel special . It is not really something to be afraid of. What we are afraid of, though, is to lose, and the pain that threatens to come along with love, as well. To lose the inspiration that love can bring. To lose one’s self so much in the pleasure of loving and being loved for fear that it might not last long. To lose the feeling of being wanted. Sometimes, these things come unexpectedly when we fall in love, and we mistake the fear of losing for the fear of loving. That is why we hold back. But then, if we don’t risk letting ourselves fall in love, we might regret it. As the saying goes, “It is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.” Mushy and idealistic, isn’t it? But it’s most probably true.